I SUPPORT THE VIEWS OF DR. BILL COSBY ...
We should accept his crititism as constructive and stop trying to hide some of the problems we know that exist. 'Our' dirty-laundry should have been aired a long time ago and PARENTS should have exercised control. Dr. Bill is RIGHT!!!!!
"WHEN YOU WALK OUT OF MY DOOR ... YOU ARE A REFLECTION OF ME (THE PARENT)!"
I have never had to be brutal with my own children; but, I always exercised the right to be in charge of my household ... even when I became a single parent.
I RESERVED 'UNCOMPROMISED' RIGHTS FOR AS LONG AS I PROVIDED THAT 'DOOR KNOB'!!!! ... MY DOMAIN! ... HEAD OF HOUSEHOLD. I laugh at it now; but, LAW & ORDER begins at home!!!! rofl (Now that they own their own door knobs, they've fully earned their own rights ... for better or for worse.)
Mine (3 children - 2 years apart) started from the cradle ... LEARNING: BOOKS & LIFE-SKILLS ... including respect, time management, obligations, priorities, and responsibilities within the family and the community structures. I remember teaching my oldest son how to 'pop a penny' on his sheets. He was 4! Each day, his sheet got tighter & it was FUN!!!!! (and his bed slept better, too!). He would go on to teach his sister and they would teach their brother ... then, they got really good doing fun chores and got a 'TEAM' thing going.
REWARD IN WORK: Having working parent(s) and knowing their roles, they came in from school, did the homework, and the chores (dishes, too) ... immaculate 'lil housekeepers ... without question. After a long hard day at the office, with nothing left to do ... they had already 'picked the park' ... their choice and away we went to explore their favorite things ... PLAY THEIR LIL HEARTS OUT! ... JOIN POP WARNER FOOTBALL ... RACE DIRT BIKES ... SLIDE DOWN CLIFFS ON BOX TOPS ... EXPLORE NATURE TRAILS & CREEKS ... CLIMB A MOUNTAIN and many family field trips.
We always loved coming back to a beautiful house and enjoyed the fruits of our labor. WE, AS A FAMILY, WORKED TOGETHER! ... PLAYED TOGETHER ... HAD FUN TOGETHER!!!!
TOYS - predominantly selected from educational book stores ... to build the mind ... to build the body. The FORMATIVE YEARS are crucial for LEARNING and a child develops at best between birth and age 6. I have to admit I cheated. I started reading to mine when I carried my lil bundles-to-be on the premise that you will be beautiful, intelligent and sophisticated.
FINANCE & MANAGEMENT: It was not uncommon for me or my husband to cash a check and throw all of the cash on the table ... deliberately and intentionally. We wanted our children to know the benefits of having jobs ... of earning our way in life and to help them understand the concepts of management. That was the best 'game'! They learned to count money & prioritize its usage ... developing early budgeting skills. At ages 11, 9, and 7, they sent the checkbook to my hospital bed with all the checks made out to pay the bills. Since they had maintained all of the balances accurately, all that was needed was my signatures. Living in a 'working home' had many advantages ... LIFE IS NEVER FREE ... EARN IT! P.s. ... I even think that they discussed the need for Dad to pull overtime ... that they would handle the homefront until I got back onto my feet & went back to work. In my opinion, children should be involved in the family's finances and are in better position to understand some of the ups & downs in life.
DRESS CODES - suitable for the occassion. God gave us all a BELLY BUTTON to help you to remember where a belt should be worn or a drawstring is to be tightened! ... and the ability to distinguish the use of UNDERWEAR ... not to be shown in public!
DISCIPLINE (when needed) went through a self-evaluation process. Acknowledge what you did which was 'wrong' ... determine the severity ... WHAT SHOULD THE PUNISHMENT BE? We adopted 'CONFERENCE TIME' ... a confession/discussion time without penalty.
RESPECT! Starts at home ... for yourself and your family and ABOVE ALL, you will respect your neighbor's space and their property as if it were your own. RESPECT THOSE WHO RESPECT YOU ... REPRESENT 'YOURSELF'!!!!!
Well, to make a long story short, when my sons enlisted in the NAVY, they called back & said, "Mom! THANKS!" Going to 'boot camp' was like going to Kindergarten. They were physically fit and pre-disciplined to accept life's challenges where ever they would have chosen to go.
According to human behavior & my studies in anthropology, every society had an established 'pecking' order ... even among animals. Even through the ELDERS were at the high-end of that order, the parents' role was never superceded until GOVERNMENT overstepped its boundaries and took away the rights of both the parents & teachers. Beyond BRUTALITY (which should be punishable by law), both were denied the right to CHASTISE. Now, the nation is in crisis and unfortunately, the focus is on 'BLACKS' even though the signals are clear that the same holds true in one community after the other ... THE WORSE HAS HAPPENED: ROLE REVERSAL ... KIDS ARE DOMINATING & CONTROLLING PARENTS & TEACHERS!
Here are a number of interesting editorials about Bill Cosby's recent comments about black America's youth.
We should accept his crititism as constructive and stop trying to hide some of the problems we know that exist. 'Our' dirty-laundry should have been aired a long time ago and PARENTS should have exercised control. Dr. Bill is RIGHT!!!!!
"WHEN YOU WALK OUT OF MY DOOR ... YOU ARE A REFLECTION OF ME (THE PARENT)!"
I have never had to be brutal with my own children; but, I always exercised the right to be in charge of my household ... even when I became a single parent.
I RESERVED 'UNCOMPROMISED' RIGHTS FOR AS LONG AS I PROVIDED THAT 'DOOR KNOB'!!!! ... MY DOMAIN! ... HEAD OF HOUSEHOLD. I laugh at it now; but, LAW & ORDER begins at home!!!! rofl (Now that they own their own door knobs, they've fully earned their own rights ... for better or for worse.)
Mine (3 children - 2 years apart) started from the cradle ... LEARNING: BOOKS & LIFE-SKILLS ... including respect, time management, obligations, priorities, and responsibilities within the family and the community structures. I remember teaching my oldest son how to 'pop a penny' on his sheets. He was 4! Each day, his sheet got tighter & it was FUN!!!!! (and his bed slept better, too!). He would go on to teach his sister and they would teach their brother ... then, they got really good doing fun chores and got a 'TEAM' thing going.
REWARD IN WORK: Having working parent(s) and knowing their roles, they came in from school, did the homework, and the chores (dishes, too) ... immaculate 'lil housekeepers ... without question. After a long hard day at the office, with nothing left to do ... they had already 'picked the park' ... their choice and away we went to explore their favorite things ... PLAY THEIR LIL HEARTS OUT! ... JOIN POP WARNER FOOTBALL ... RACE DIRT BIKES ... SLIDE DOWN CLIFFS ON BOX TOPS ... EXPLORE NATURE TRAILS & CREEKS ... CLIMB A MOUNTAIN and many family field trips.
We always loved coming back to a beautiful house and enjoyed the fruits of our labor. WE, AS A FAMILY, WORKED TOGETHER! ... PLAYED TOGETHER ... HAD FUN TOGETHER!!!!
TOYS - predominantly selected from educational book stores ... to build the mind ... to build the body. The FORMATIVE YEARS are crucial for LEARNING and a child develops at best between birth and age 6. I have to admit I cheated. I started reading to mine when I carried my lil bundles-to-be on the premise that you will be beautiful, intelligent and sophisticated.
FINANCE & MANAGEMENT: It was not uncommon for me or my husband to cash a check and throw all of the cash on the table ... deliberately and intentionally. We wanted our children to know the benefits of having jobs ... of earning our way in life and to help them understand the concepts of management. That was the best 'game'! They learned to count money & prioritize its usage ... developing early budgeting skills. At ages 11, 9, and 7, they sent the checkbook to my hospital bed with all the checks made out to pay the bills. Since they had maintained all of the balances accurately, all that was needed was my signatures. Living in a 'working home' had many advantages ... LIFE IS NEVER FREE ... EARN IT! P.s. ... I even think that they discussed the need for Dad to pull overtime ... that they would handle the homefront until I got back onto my feet & went back to work. In my opinion, children should be involved in the family's finances and are in better position to understand some of the ups & downs in life.
DRESS CODES - suitable for the occassion. God gave us all a BELLY BUTTON to help you to remember where a belt should be worn or a drawstring is to be tightened! ... and the ability to distinguish the use of UNDERWEAR ... not to be shown in public!
DISCIPLINE (when needed) went through a self-evaluation process. Acknowledge what you did which was 'wrong' ... determine the severity ... WHAT SHOULD THE PUNISHMENT BE? We adopted 'CONFERENCE TIME' ... a confession/discussion time without penalty.
RESPECT! Starts at home ... for yourself and your family and ABOVE ALL, you will respect your neighbor's space and their property as if it were your own. RESPECT THOSE WHO RESPECT YOU ... REPRESENT 'YOURSELF'!!!!!
Well, to make a long story short, when my sons enlisted in the NAVY, they called back & said, "Mom! THANKS!" Going to 'boot camp' was like going to Kindergarten. They were physically fit and pre-disciplined to accept life's challenges where ever they would have chosen to go.
According to human behavior & my studies in anthropology, every society had an established 'pecking' order ... even among animals. Even through the ELDERS were at the high-end of that order, the parents' role was never superceded until GOVERNMENT overstepped its boundaries and took away the rights of both the parents & teachers. Beyond BRUTALITY (which should be punishable by law), both were denied the right to CHASTISE. Now, the nation is in crisis and unfortunately, the focus is on 'BLACKS' even though the signals are clear that the same holds true in one community after the other ... THE WORSE HAS HAPPENED: ROLE REVERSAL ... KIDS ARE DOMINATING & CONTROLLING PARENTS & TEACHERS!
Here are a number of interesting editorials about Bill Cosby's recent comments about black America's youth.
http://www.whittierdailynews.com/opinions/ci_4177130
http://washingtontimes.com/commentary/20060818-091842-6003r.htm
http://www.jsonline.com/story/index.aspx?id=485355
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/08/20/AR2006082000527.html/article/2006/08/20/AR2006082000527.html
Thanks to my cousin for sending me these links - Gary Martin, Sacramento, CA.
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